Reorganizing my Life Goals and Fashion Sense

I've had a long talk with Shawshank tonight, via messenger of course. He told me to put my goals in life in order. Quite honestly, I don't know that I really had life goals. I did once. A very, very long time ago. But life changes, and things become different. The goals I had once no longer fit my life and I've been sort of drifting for years. I've had several short term goals but nothing long term. So, he made me list out what I want.

• Get to the next step in my job.
• Mentor those who are coming up so they can move higher than me.
• I want to trust and be trusted in a relationship
• I want to fall in love and share my life with someone

Some that I didn't share:

• I want to be happier with myself; the decisions I make and the way I look.
• I want to feel more confident in who I am and more comfortable with the way my life is going.
• I want to be a better friend.

But, like I shared with him, I miss having friends close. I miss having people who give a damn about me close to me or able to share more of their lives with me. I need to have people who know who I am, all of it, the good and the flawed and still like me. I want friends who will accept me for myself even when I am having trouble doing so. 

Shawshank wants to be a support system, and to an extent he is, but I told him I need to find others, ones I won't feel bad about sucking their time. What I didn't say, is I want someone I can rely on. He has his own agenda for being my friend right now, and I am not sure I know what it is.

He wants me to go out and scratch my itch, but I make terrible choices. Toddlers looking for something tasty to eat in the medicine cabinet make better choices than I do dating.  He says to rely on friends to be help me be a better person.

For the music portion, Golden makes me think more than I should and Seven seas is just good old school music. 

The big question at the end of all of this is, how do I do all of these things?